Tuesday, February 17, 2004

Friday Five

From Roganda:

So Valentine's Day is coming up, and my impulse to be timely has overcome my dislike of mush, so today's question concerns love.
"Love is omni-inclusive, progressively exquisite, understanding and tender and compassionately attuned to other than self." R. Buckminster Fuller.
What are five ways that people in your life (any relation: child, parent, spiritual advisor, friend, etc. etc.) have demonstrated through their actions that they love you--whether they meant to or not? (bonus points for interesting, unusual, unexpected or especially subtle examples).

1. Adam moved to Austin with me, leaving a job in his field, and didn't divorce me, even though I was incredibly busy with graduate school, we were both depressed and his job situation sucked. That's love, baby. (There was also the time he let me use his toothbrush, but my parents read this blog, so out of deference to their sensibilities, I'll leave that one to the imagination. . .)

2. My parents have done so much for me, it's hard to single out one instance - one that particularly stands out is when I was in college and got into a financial bind. I worried and stressed and freaked out about how I was going to tell my folks that I'd spent all the money for the current semester and everything for the next one as well. When I finally called them and 'fessed up, they were wonderfully understanding and didn't berate me or anything. I cannot convey to you the relief I felt.

3. Gina has driven multiple times from Birmingham to Austin, twice to help me after children were born. God knows, anybody who'd willingly do that drive must love me.

4. Merideth watched my kids once a week for several months so that I could take a class at the University. Yes, every week she drove to my house with her two kids, and stayed with my two (including picking Drew up from school) until Adam came home from work. There are stars in her crown, as my mother says. . .

5. My aunt Bernice, who had no children used to invite me to stay with her - she would take me to libraries and museums and bookstores - all sorts of interesting and exciting places. She was divorced and widowed and it couldn't have been easy for her to have a very high-energy kid staying with her and interupting her routines, but she never made me feel any less than welcome.

Friday Fivers listed to the right, although the list is out of date - look for it to be updated later today.

Whew - I did it! (It may be like this for a while - late Friday Fives, only a few posts a week, but I'm trying and it will get better as my life gets into more of a routine.